“In the end, these things matter most: How well did you love? How fully did you live? How deeply did you let go?” — Buddha
Therapists, coaches and yoga instructors love to tell us, “Just let go!” Sounds divine, yet ambiguous… What exactly is involved in the process of letting go? After 20 years of counseling clients and taking a stab or two at letting go of my own “stuff,” I recommend the following strategies:
1. Detach from outcome and focus on the process. If your mind is obsessing about whether or not this is the person you are going to marry, for example, you are going to miss the enjoyment of courtship and that first kiss… Trust in the greater plan for your life and trust that things unfold over time as they should. Skip the urge to jump to the end of the story and enjoy the present moment.
2. Understand that the life you thought you would have may not be the life you will actually have. Many of us have a concept of who we are and how we think our life is going to go. The more we live, the more we learn that things don’t always go as planned. Understand that not only is this okay, it might actually be better. Practice gratitude and trust in the process. Read more