Women who are truly happy with who they are, are filled with self-compassion. They are confident and eager to follow their own path.Does this apply to you?Are you happy with what you see in the mirror? For the last couple of months I have been asking women this question. Research has shown that 70% of the women are being critical of their appearance. What a shame! Confidence and high self esteem is essential for living up to your full potential!
Imagine waking up in the morning. As usual, my day starts with brushing my teeth. That is the first encounter with “me” and my reflection in the mirror, “Good gosh happy good morning!” Does this sound familiar to you?
Ok I got accustomed to seeing my ‘naked’ face, and I don’t feel inclined anymore to be discontented. Self acceptance is key and it will be an ongoing process throughout my life to acknowledge that my flaws are simply a part of me.
But why do so many women fall asleep next to their partner with mascara on? What drives us ? Our own insecurity? Are we afraid of not being accepted by our partners? What kind of man would it be anyway, if he wouldn’t love the pure, natural you! We have to be confident enough to recognise that he is not worth it!
Can you risk feeling good about yourself? Would it make a difference, in your thinking, feelings and motives, if you would feel this way? These questions are all subject to our self-esteem.
Self-esteem can be defined as a person’s overall sense of self-worth or personal value. Self-esteem can involve a variety of beliefs about the self, such as the appraisal of one’s own appearance, beliefs, emotions and behaviours.
During my training, you will be challenged to reflect yourself in ‘Power women’. You will quickly experience that we all carry pre-programmed values and belief systems with us, about ourselves, our external environment, our family and the way we should act, feel and look. Unconsciously, we develop all these pre-conceptions over the years. There are various causes for having a low self -esteem such as parental influence, your own survival strategy or the media ,which I will discuss in my next blog.
The answer to this problem is ‘self-reflection’, which forms the foundation of developing a solid sense of self-esteem and healthy confidence. Without truly being capable of looking inward, honouring your struggles and acknowledging your strengths, it becomes difficult to grow and change. Identifying emotions that keep you blocked, or limiting beliefs that may no longer serve you, perpetuates the cycle of low self-esteem and negative thinking.
Feeling Beautiful on the inside & out is definitely hard work, but it’s worth it! All your imperfections will be replaced by gratitude, authenticity and the real YOU will come to the surface.
Carola Pavlik MBA